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You know those conversations that just light you up inside? The ones where you walk away feeling more inspired, more understood, and maybe even a little bit lighter? That's exactly what happened when I chatted with Hillary Livingston Giddings and Bethany M. Pace from Sincerely Divorced. (Watch our full chat in the video above - trust me, you won't want to miss their infectious energy!)
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When Life Hands You Divorce, Find Your People
Let's be real for a minute - divorce can feel incredibly lonely. As a divorce preparation coach, I've seen countless people try to navigate this journey solo, thinking they have to put on a brave face and figure it all out alone. But here's the thing: you don't have to. And Hillary and Bethany's story proves exactly why.
Picture this: two friends, both going through divorce during the pandemic (talk about timing!), turning their experience into something magical. These incredible women took their decade-long friendship, added a healthy dose of real talk about divorce, sprinkled in some much-needed humor, and created a community that's changing how we think about life after divorce.
Why You Need to Watch This Conversation
Before you dive into the rest of this post, take a few minutes to watch our chat above. Hillary and Bethany share some golden nuggets about:
- How they found strength in their friendship during divorce
- Why humor is sometimes the best medicine (their stories will make you laugh!)
- The unexpected ways community can transform your divorce journey
- Their refreshing "breakdown to glow-up" philosophy
"I love our shared vision of what divorce can be, namely that divorce is an opportunity to build a life that authentically aligns with who you are." - Alex Beattie, Founder of The Divorce Planner
The Secret Nobody Tells You About Divorce Support
Here's something I wish more people knew: finding the right support during divorce isn't just helpful - it's absolutely game-changing. And I'm not just talking about lawyers and mediators (though yes, you need those too!). I'm talking about the kind of support that makes you feel seen, understood, and maybe even gets you laughing about things you never thought you'd laugh about again.
During our conversation, Hillary and Bethany opened up about how they're revolutionizing divorce support through:
Real Talk and Raw Honesty
They're not afraid to get vulnerable about their own experiences, and it's creating a ripple effect. As they share in the video, being honest about their struggles has encouraged others to do the same. It's like a permission slip to be real about what you're going through.
Community Building That Actually Works
Their approach to building community is refreshingly different. It's not just about sharing divorce tips (though they've got plenty of those!) - it's about creating spaces where people can be themselves, struggles and all.
The "Glow-Up" Mindset
My favorite part of our chat was when they explained their philosophy about embracing both the breakdown and the glow-up. Because let's face it - divorce isn't pretty at first, but with the right support, it can lead to some serious personal transformation.
Whether you're just starting to think about divorce, in the middle of the process, or working on rebuilding, there are some key takeaways from my conversation I really want you to hear:
1. You're Not Alone (Really!)
The isolation you might be feeling? It's normal, but it's also optional. There are communities out there ready to support you - you just need to know where to look.
2. It's Okay to Not Have It All Figured Out
Nobody has it all figured out at first. The key is finding people who can help you navigate each step, whether that's:
- Emotional support from communities like Sincerely Divorced
- Professional guidance from divorce coaches (that's what I'm here for!)
- Legal help from qualified attorneys
- Financial advice from divorce-savvy financial planners
3. Joy and Laughter Are Still Possible
One of the most powerful moments in our conversation was when we talked about finding joy again. When I was going through my own divorce one of the biggest things I wanted to feel was hope. Watch the video to hear our personal stories about rediscovering happiness - they're pretty infectious.
Finding Your Support System
After watching Hillary and Bethany share their story, you might be wondering how to find your own support network. Here's what I recommend:
Start Small, But Start Somewhere
- Follow supportive communities online (like "Sincerely Divorced")
- Reach out to a divorce preparation coach (I'd love to help!)
- Join local or online support groups
- Connect with others who've been through divorce
Remember: every strong support system started with a single step. For Hillary and Bethany, it was leaning into their friendship during tough times. For you, it might be watching this video and reading this post.
Next Steps
After you watch the video (seriously, don't miss it!), take a moment to think about what resonated most with you. Was it their approach to finding humor in hard times? Their emphasis on community? The hope they offer for life after divorce?
Whatever it was, know that you're already taking an important step just by being here and seeking support. Whether you're:
- Just starting to think about divorce
- In the middle of the process
- Working on rebuilding post-divorce
- Looking to support someone else through their journey
Want to learn more about building your divorce support system or preparing for your own journey? Let's talk. As a divorce prep coach, I'm here to help you navigate this transition with confidence, clarity, and yes, maybe even a few laughs along the way.
Drop a comment below with your thoughts on the video, or reach out if you'd like to explore how we can work together to make your divorce journey a little bit easier and a lot more supported.
There's a community here for you.
Looking for more personalized support? I offer one-on-one divorce preparation coaching to help you navigate this transition with confidence. Book a free 15 minute strategy call and we'll chat about how I can help you create a strategic plan for your journey ahead.
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